A True Story of False Claim of Abuse

Of course I will not be using true names in this post but they are your neighbors in Gig Harbor.  He works for a government entity like many of those in the area with the joint base across the bridge.  His lively hood, how he pays not only his bills but helps his former wife and children afford daily living, was challenged and eventually taken from him due to false claims of domestic abuse.  She, whom had followed the advise of her attorney, filed a false claim of abuse to "protect her interest in the divorce proceedings".  

This particular false claim stopped the flow of income to her soon to be husband which she was solely dependent upon for financial stability.   Once the ball got rolling and he was fired from his job she was way in over her head. 

What was filed was a standard order of protection with a request to have his firearms taken from him.  Remember that she did this on the advice of her attorney to protect her interest.  This "standard" procedure forced the sale of many personal items (i.e. cars, boats, RVs and the like) because the only bread winner in the family was fired from his job due to false claims of abuse.

Her false claims were only squashed when the now divorced husband and wife fired the attorney that started the ball rolling in the first place and went to the judge together to get the order quashed.  The real damage to them was a complete loss of savings, loss of the family home and many things that were paid for to pay the bills as a direct result from losing his job.

The other damage done was resources desperately needed for REAL victims of domestic abuse were wasted on this couple.  Shameful. 

Before you criticize me and ask me about statistics on those which were actually in danger, check the stats our yourself.   In this case, there was no abuse.  Admittedly in court there was never any abuse.  The admitted to fighting, yelling at one another, and generally not getting along but not abuse. 

There was no hitting, threatening of lives, digital abuse through email or text - there was no physical or digital proof that ANY abuse occurred whatsoever.   All that happened was a false accusation of abuse to protect her interest and both of their world and the worlds of their children changed forever.

Please look at the big picture and then decide if making a false claim of abuse is worth while.  If you think it will protect your "interest" then you are filing for the wrong reason.   You SHOULD be filing to protect your "life".  With that said only use this if it is needed and not as a weapon to hurt the one man that is your lifeline to keeping you and your children fed, sheltered and clothed.

In my coming blog posts I will detail the true facts of a dissolved marriage where false claims of abuse have destroyed lives and livelihoods.  It also took away resources that need to be used for REAL victims of abuse.   Should be excited and I hope that I can make a difference in real time.

If you are that wife or husband that is using an attorney to damage the other person, please think of the others that are in the path or left in the wake of a false accusation.